Three ways to balance humility with success in today’s job market

The Viral LinkedIn Post That Sparked a Conversation

When I took a picture of my parents' diplomas and asked LinkedIn members how to balance humility with self-promotion, I had no idea that over seven and a half million people would view my post.

I had just asked my parents why they never hung up their Harvard diplomas until after they retired. My dad shrugged. My mom said, "I always thought if you have to tell people you're smart, then you're not."

That conversation, and the thoughtful comments that followed, inspired me to reflect more deeply. Here’s a summary of themes from the thousands of people who commented:

Be respectful.

Although my original post showed my parents' diplomas, what resonated with those who commented were the issues of respect and humility. Having a particular degree doesn’t automatically mean a person is smarter or better, as one person pointed out, but some people have that perception. Out of respect, my parents didn't talk about their degrees unless asked. But—

Be honest. 

In a job search and in life, even the most humble person should be honest about credentials. Why? Because honesty helps other people—potential employers, as well as people in your network—to consider whether you’re a good fit for a particular job. Some people commented that an honest statement of merits isn’t bragging if the other person needs to know.

Focus on meeting the other person’s needs. 

Assess the organization’s needs and where your prospective job fits in. Then explain what you can offer to meet those needs. If the job requires a certain degree and you have it, say so. But, as some people were quick to point out, education isn’t the only qualification for a job. Persistence, practical skills, diplomacy—show people whatever makes you a good fit for that particular job. Include enough of your personal and work history to show what you can do to meet others’ needs.

I’m grateful for all the insights shared. My key takeaway — in work and in life — is to be respectful, be honest, and focus on meeting others' needs. Thank you for being part of this meaningful conversation!